RIOTING IN N. CAROLINA

Recently a 43 year old man and father of seven, Keith Lamont Scott, was killed by police in Charlotte, NC. As is often the case, there are conflicting reports as to what actually happened. Currently, an investigation by a separate state agency is taking place to determine if this shooting was warranted or was an act of racial profiling. In any event, investigations of this nature can take months to complete. In the meantime, people are up in arms about another killing of a black man that, for many, appears racially motivated. Police in riot gear are trying to keep protestors from becoming violent yet their efforts are falling short. Looting local businesses typically accompanies rioting and Charlotte is no exception. Along with physical injuries, there was an innocent civilian who was murdered by a civilian, all due to the chaos that is germane to violent protests.
I totally understand the anger and outrage at a presumed killing of an innocent individual, and protests, if handled correctly, can be a powerful tool in voicing one’s concerns as well as influencing much needed reform. However, here are some of the reasons why protests of this nature do not work.

Flawed From the Get Go

First, upon hearing such news, people are quick to jump to conclusions and make assumptions about the guilt and/or innocence of all parties. This is typically decided by a predetermined mindset or belief that the person subscribes to. Rather than review all of the facts, they pick and choose those details which support their beliefs and discredit those that contradict them. Their actions are a reflection of those beliefs, however accurate or erroneous they may be.

Secondly, once an individual has made a judgment call, they are eager to disseminate that information in order to attract followers and thus gain momentum. When they condemn the supposed guilty party before an accurate determination can be made, their agenda incites hatred towards the alleged perpetrator typically followed by outrage and violence. Fear (that justice will not be served) fuels this behavior in an effort to gain power and control over their (perceived) oppressors.

Unintended Consequences

However, rather than achieve the positive changes they are seeking, the opposite actually occurs. Rioters lose the respect of the community and nation; they are seen as hate-mongers who are unable and unwilling to negotiate an issue rationally. Whatever trust and cooperation could have occurred between both sides is dashed as their actions support the belief that (based on their violent behaviors) they are untrustworthy.
While their concerns may be valid, their actions elude to another agenda. The deliberate destruction of another person’s personal property, i.e. the looting of local businesses, damage to vehicles, assaults on innocent individuals, etc., suggests that their protest is actually an excuse to cause mayhem and destruction. Additionally, those in the black communities who accuse whites of racial profiling are only further hurting their cause for justice by reinforcing the violent image many people have of them as they engage in unjustifiable destruction and harm to their communities and fellow citizens.

The Path to Righteous Change

Violence is never the way to change. From a Karmic perspective one cannot engage in negative, hateful actions and expect to reap a positive end. In Biblical terms, (Galatians) God tells us that “You shall reap what you sow.” Therefore, the only way to create justice is through fairness and rational, respectable actions. Ghandi stated it so eloquently, “I must first be the change I want to see in the world.” It cannot be any clearer than that.

Relevant Questions

Here are the questions all agitators need to consider before engaging in destructive acts: will this help or hurt my cause? Will this make the situation better or worse, now and in the future? Clearly there is nothing constructive that has emerged from any of these riots. On the contrary: blacks have further damaged their image and race relations are more strained now than in prior years.

Authentic Power

While violent protestors are dangerously misguided in their way of thinking, that violence is power, the truth is that responsibility is power. Only when we take personal ownership for the sad state of our lives rather than blame others do we have the power to change it. Peace is power. “I Am the Way and the Truth and the Life” says God. God’s way of love and kindness and concern for one another is the path to a more just and safer world. It is our Divine right to be free from harm and to be treated with dignity and respect. But that will not happen through the use of force. It will only occur when each individual chooses to be respectful towards all of humanity, even towards those who may be acting out; to rise above, to be the example of what is means to be fully human.

In Summary

When both sides are willing to come together in a meaningful dialogue to share their concerns and grievances, to listen not only with their ears but more importantly with their hearts, when they are willing to forgive the transgressions of the other party and put the past behind them, only then do they stand a chance at ending the hatred and coming together as one.

You cannot beat a child and expect him or her to trust and love you. Likewise, you cannot riot and loot and injure and destroy and expect others to respect you. “What you reap you sow.” Positive change can only occur through positive actions. Let go of the fear and anger and hatred. Let God’s way be your way. And in doing so, the world will finally find the peace and justice it is so desperately seeking.

Matthew 5:44 “But I say to you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which spitefully use you, and persecute you.”

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Erica Longdon on The Night Shift

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Erica Longdon had a long career as a broadcaster in British tv and radio(30 years). Following her guidance she gave it all up to work as a healer (massage, reiki, ear candling, and lately sound healing) locally in Kent, England. After training with Doreen Virtue in 2009, she began work as a psychic advisor and the angels have looked after her ever since.
Erica is the author of the novel In Pursuit of Perfect Timing and is now working on her non-fiction book on sound healing, Sonic Vitamins For Sound Health.
A strong advocator of meditation, she found herself in a tent in a field at a yoga festival in 2012 and met a man that was life changing for her Yogi Ashokanda. Erica learned more from him in 30 minutes than she had from numerous books. She has wanted to study with him ever since. However, his ashram is in India, and that combined with time issues she could not make it happen. She is thrilled though that she was just accepted in his course in London beginning 9/16 and will become a fully qualified and insured meditation teacher upon completion.
An avid traveler, I have had the pleasure of hearing Erica play the drone flute in Tintagel Cave in Cornwall on a recent visit.
She shares all this with us plus much more! Tune in to The Night Shift, 7:00 PM Eastern Time on Tuesday, September 27th.

 

 

DEAL WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE USING C~U~R~B~APPEAL

We all have challenging people in our lives yet unfortunately few of us have been properly trained in how to effectively deal with them. Well, that’s going to change today. In no particular order, using the an acronym “C~U~R~B Appeal”, you will learn tips that will better enable you to get along with difficult people.

C: Consequences Very often when we are dealing with challenging individuals we fail to set limits and boundaries. We may be comfortable speaking up and addressing their inappropriate behaviors or attitudes. Additionally we might also comment on how we expect them to behave. However, that’s typically as far as we get. Without motivation to change (which can either be a reward or a penalty) people are often inclined to continue doing what they’re doing without regard for the feelings or impact it has on others. Much like our speed limits, if police officers only expressed a desire that we obey them rather than exceed those limits, few would comply. Imposing a ticket or points on the offender’s license gives one ample reason to make the necessary changes. The key to effective consequences is following through with them.

U: Understanding It’s essential to realize that behavior is an outward expression of our internal issues. Those who are arrogant, vengeful, rude, combative, uncooperative, etc. are verbally or physically expressing what is bothering them inside, those issues that they have not yet resolved or healed. Individuals are not always aware of why they act as they do and are therefore powerless to some extent to change. Even though I may be understanding that one who is yelling and threatening me is operating from a place of fear (aggression is a need to self-protect from a perceived threat), I may not necessarily know the source of that fear and neither is it necessary. I only need to be understanding of their suffering and therefore compassionate that they are struggling with an unresolved issue.

R: Respect Regardless of how difficult the individual may be, it is imperative to always treat them with dignity and respect. This can be extremely challenging as it is our natural inclination to want to put others in their place when they are acting out or to get even with those who have offended us. We also tend to assign value to people based, in part, on how they treat others. Those who are disrespectful or offensive have lower worth to us than those who treat one another with dignity. However, it is not our place to judge; neither do people have to earn our esteem. Respect is defined as “to value” and the one who assigns importance to all humanity is the One who created it. All human life has equal value. Respect is a God-given birthright. To offer it is a Divine responsibility. Additionally being courteous shows the other party how to be polite as well and hopefully they will follow your example.

B: Boundaries Robert Frost said, “Good fences make good neighbors.” In every relationship it is important to establish rules and regulations defining what is acceptable treatment and what is not. Too often, we are fearful of speaking up when someone mistreats us or treats us in a way that we find offensive or uncomfortable. “People should know how to treat one another,” we proclaim. However, respectable treatment is different for each person. What one is fine with another may find appalling. Each person must be crystal clear in their own minds how they want to be treated – what is and is not permissible – and then clearly convey that to the other party. Without verbally expressing our desires, we cannot expect that every person will treat us in a way that we find acceptable. Ideally, having boundaries in place precedes consequences. Once they are made known, one can follow up by also expressing the consequences they are prepared to enforce should the other person disregard their request.

A: Appeal Appealing to what matters to the other person , to what is important to them, is a powerful tool in gaining their cooperation. What strikes a chord within is more likely to result in an affirmative response than that which they cannot relate to. For example, one can appeal to their sense of moral values making a statement such as, “I know that it matters to you to always do what is right and fair.” Pointing to issues of right and wrong, or to what is in their best interest can also enable them to adjust their attitudes or behaviors. “Do you think that your choice is ultimately going to be good for you? I’m concerned that it may not be and you certainly deserve to be safe/happy/healthy, etc.” “How is this behavior/attitude going to benefit you?” is another powerful question that challenges the other person to reconsider their actions. “What is the more responsible thing to do? Is this a fair decision for everyone? Are you being a good role model for your children?” are all thought-provoking questions. Reach out and touch their “heart interests”, what matters most to them. Share your concern for their well-being and in doing so you may very well gain their trust and cooperation.

In dealing with those who require greater effort on our parts, it is imperative that we remove our own ego and operate from a place of spirit – kindness, concern, and equality. Remind yourself that everyone is struggling with their own unique pain and fear. It is not your place to put them in their place but rather to uplift them and assist them in creating the best scenario possible at that moment. With a little concern, a reasonable amount of patience, and the C~U~R~B Appeal Method, you’ll increase your ability to better interact with those who are typically uncooperative with others.

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